Infected, tainted, but still loved

Boy meets girls. Girl likes boy. Long story short girl gets pregnant and boy cuts and moves. Wait, that's a little harsh. Lets turn it up. Girl gives sex for love. Boy gives love for sex. Yet the nether are satisfied and the relationship crashes and burns. Now not all relationships are like that, but most are. In fact I am going to put my neck out and say all relationships that don't involve God are like that. Not all end up at sex but the principles are exactly the same. This is a problem. . .

Here is my reasoning that first bit. Guys and girls want affection, attention and what they understand to be love. When we get into a relationship we get physical, natural human thing to do. Now how fast you go in up to you, but most of the time we don't think with our brains. We give each other the attention and affection and what we know as love. We spend time with each other, we talk, we argue, we make up. Normal relationship events occur. We get more and more physical till yes that's right sex is in the boxing ring.

Sex is the ultimate action in a relationship, married or not. After sex there isn't anything that gets you more tangled in that relationship. You are giving a massive chunk of your heart, your soul. You will always remember it. You attach yourself to that person. So with this in mind, with all that affection, entanglement and 'love', why do so many relationships fail? Why do very few make to marriage and even fewer make it through marriage?

I believe it comes down to the fact we are tainted. Now some may be thinking "WTF!? whats tainted mean?". I know I would be. We have sin in us. We have the anti-love in our hearts: Lust. Seriously lust is the complete opposite of love. Because we have sin in us, our understanding of love is tainted. How we recieve it, how we give it, no matter what we do our love will fail because it is infected with sin. We dont know how to love completely in a reltionship. . .

At the start of this blog I mentioned God. Thats right the big fella up in the clouds. He loves completely, perfectly. No matter what. Now I'm not saying we can be just like God and love just like Him. We can let Him love us though, we can recieve it. Once someone has recieved a gift or learnt something, he can teach or pass it on yes? The same applys to love. Once we have Gods love in us and in our relationship we can begin to love like God loves us. We can begin to fight the infection of sin.

When boy and girl enter a relationship with God at the centre of that relationship, with true untainted love, chances are it wont end in regret. Chances are it wont end with a single parent.

Chances are it will work.



LJA